أم سليم بنت ملحان
Umm Sulaym bint Milhan
The Courageous Mother Who Set the Mahr of Faith
নবী ﷺ-এর সাথে সম্পর্ক
Umm Sulaym had a particularly close relationship with the Prophet ﷺ. She had entrusted her son Anas to serve the Prophet ﷺ from a very young age, and the Prophet ﷺ would frequently visit her home and share meals there. He would sleep at her house on occasion, and she reportedly collected his blessed sweat in a bottle as a source of baraka. The Prophet ﷺ prayed a special supplication for Umm Sulaym and Abu Talha after hearing the story of her patient handling of their son's death, and this prayer resulted in them having a blessed son who became a scholar. The Prophet ﷺ counted her among the most righteous women of his community.
জীবনের গুরুত্বপূর্ণ ঘটনা
Born to the Banu Najjar clan of the Ansar in Madinah
Made Islam the dowry for her marriage to Abu Talha — one of Islam's greatest mahr stories
Demonstrated extraordinary patience and wisdom upon the death of her son
Participated in the Battle of Uhud treating the wounded
Accompanied the Prophet ﷺ during the expedition to Khaybar
Passed away in Madinah revered as one of the greatest women of early Islam
সম্পূর্ণ জীবনী
Umm Sulaym bint Milhan al-Ansariyyah was one of the most remarkable women of the Ansar. She was a widow with a young son, Anas ibn Malik (who would become one of the most prolific narrators of hadith), when Abu Talha, one of the wealthiest and most respected men of Madinah, proposed marriage to her.
Abu Talha was at the time not yet Muslim. Umm Sulaym's response became legendary in Islamic history: "A man like you is not to be rejected, but you are a disbeliever and I am a Muslim — it is not permissible for me to marry you. But if you embrace Islam, that will be my mahr (dowry)." Abu Talha embraced Islam sincerely, and they were married with his Islam as her mahr — considered one of the greatest dowries ever paid.
Umm Sulaym was known for extraordinary courage. When her young son Anas fell seriously ill and passed away while Abu Talha was away, she washed him, wrapped him, and laid him on his bed. When Abu Talha returned and asked about the child, she gently deferred the question, served him dinner, and only after fulfilling all her duties as a wife did she tell him: "If people entrust something with you and then ask for it back, do you return it?" When he agreed, she said: "Allah entrusted our son to us and He has taken him back. Praise be to Allah." Abu Talha was overcome and the Prophet ﷺ, upon hearing this story, prayed for blessings on them.
She participated in battles with the Prophet ﷺ, carrying water and treating the wounded, and once was seen carrying a dagger. She was among the Prophet's ﷺ closest women companions and had the distinction of having meals prepared for the Prophet ﷺ at her home.
বিখ্যাত উক্তিসমূহ
A man like you is not to be refused — but your Islam is my dowry.
Allah gave and Allah took — praise be to Allah in all circumstances.
She carried her dagger at Hunayn saying: if any polytheist comes near me I will use it.
আপনার জীবনের জন্য শিক্ষা
Setting faith as a condition for marriage protects both religious and family life.
Patience in the face of a child's death, while fulfilling one's duties, is among the highest sabr.
The mahr does not need to be wealth — acts of righteousness are the most precious gifts.
Women's participation in supporting Muslim armies is an honored Prophetic tradition.
Wisdom in delivering difficult news — Umm Sulaym's timing shows emotional intelligence.
কীভাবে তাঁদের মতো হবেন
Umm Sulaym bint Milhan-এর পদাঙ্ক অনুসরণ করতে চান? তাঁর জীবন থেকে নেওয়া এই ব্যবহারিক পদক্ষেপগুলো দিয়ে শুরু করুন।
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Setting faith as a condition for marriage protects both religious and family life.
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Patience in the face of a child's death, while fulfilling one's duties, is among the highest sabr.
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The mahr does not need to be wealth — acts of righteousness are the most precious gifts.
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Women's participation in supporting Muslim armies is an honored Prophetic tradition.
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Wisdom in delivering difficult news — Umm Sulaym's timing shows emotional intelligence.